What do you want your life to look like a year from now?
Sometimes when I ask someone what they want in life, they instead tell me what they don’t want.
“I don’t want to be depressed.”
“I don’t want to be fearful.”
“I don’t want to be alone.”
“I don’t want to be addicted.”
It’s often easier to identify what we don’t want than what we do want. Why is this?
THE PROBLEM WITH CHANGE
“It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak.
We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition
when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on
making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant
by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
– CS Lewis
What a shocking truth to discover.
How do we end up alone?
How do we end up addicted?
How do we end up unstable?
How do we end up in misery?
How do we end up in bondage?
Our desires are too weak.
We want to be healthy, but aren’t willing to change our diet and exercise.
We want a godly marriage, but aren’t willing to put in the effort.
We want to be at peace, but aren’t willing to take our thoughts captive.
We want to have good relationships, but aren’t willing to invest the time necessary.
We want to be respected, but aren’t willing to do the hard things.
We want to be free, but aren’t willing to do what it takes to experience freedom.
In a word: passionate.